Category Archives: Descriptive Praise

Sibling Harmony

How to foster sibling harmony

See video below for a simple way to encourage your children to get on better, particularly over the long Summer holidays.


Examples of Descriptive Praise for positive sibling interactions

Look out for any examples of sharing, team work, patience, not interrupting, not reacting physically, problem solving, being considerate and thoughtful.

“You are both being so friendly to each other and really sharing those felt tips.”

“It is so lovely to watch you playing basketball together and Zoe you are not getting upset when the ball doesn’t go into the net.”

“For ten minutes you haven’t said one annoying thing to your sister.  That shows real self –control.”

“Even though you are really angry, you didn’t hit but were able to explain with words how you feel.”

“You worked out a fair way to decide what TV programme to watch even though you both like different things.”

“It was so generous of you to share your crisps with Ella after she dropped hers on the floor.  That was really thoughtful of you.”

“We’ve been in the car for 20 minutes and you haven’t argued once.  It is such a pleasure to be with you three.”

“I love being with you when you are not squabbling.”

Descriptive Praise


How to talk so kids will listen

Learn a powerful skill to motivate your child and boost their confidence and self esteem


What is Descriptive Praise?

‘Descriptive Praise’ is a way of giving your child appreciation and approval every day so that they are more motivated to listen and willing to co-operate.  It is about noticing and mentioning all the OK things your child is doing  to reinforce the behaviour you want to see.  Children are programmed to seek their parent’s attention so why not focus on what they are doing right.

What are the benefits of Descriptive Praise?

  • More co-operative child
  • More motivated child
  • Increased confidence and self-esteem
  • Children do more to please us
  • Less tension and stress
  • We like our children more as we notice what they are doing right

How do you do it?

  • Stand back and focus on what they do right
  • Notice and mention every tiny step in the right direction
  • Praise their effort, attitude and strategies not just the outcome
  • Point out the qualities shown by their behaviour

DP is hard.  It feels like a foreign language at first but it really works with all ages from 1-100!!

Remember the magic ratio: – 5 POSITIVES TO EVERY NEGATIVE